Reader Question:

i've strategies with an old buddy greater than twenty years. During that time, he had shown on one or more event he'd a crush on me. Ever since then, we have both already been hitched and divorced but I have remained in contact through the circle of buddies.

I am certain You will find passionate thoughts for him, but how carry out i understand what his feelings/intentions tend to be? Can males really be "just pals" with ladies?

-Elaine (Michigan)

Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer:

Dear Elaine,

NO. Actually guys who swear they're "merely pals" with women usually takes at the least intercourse if it's readily available.

Simply spend time with him. Determine whether you continue to like him.

Looking at the last with rose-colored chook up near mes is not necessarily the identical to staring at him with obvious vision today. Just one of you could have altered. You don't need to hurry into something.

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